I've been lucky enough to be working with some very special and unique people over the last few months. In that time it feels we’ve jointly moved a few mountains, making some important changes to not just one persons life, but also to many of the most important people who share the lives of each of us.
In reflecting on what may be of interest for you over this Summer holiday period (for those in the Northern Hemisphere!) I thought it would be best to share with you the experiences of Lucy from Coppet in Switzerland.
Lucy is one of those special people and she has asked me to provide some feedback on her experiences in the hope that her story will inspire others. We have worked together closely over three months completing my DreamBuilder program. The quotes below are written personally by her.
Lucy explained that “As a family we had been through a number of difficult challenges - infertility, behavioural problems with our children, and two international moves. Combined with giving up a career to become a full-time mother, I felt like I had given up all sense of me. Whilst my priority will always be with my children, I wanted to work out what I could do for me to give myself back a sense of pride in myself and to actually feel like I was achieving something again.”
She has now discovered her dream to “…run a small business doing something that I love, and that I'm quite good at!” Lucy, has also acted on her discovery. Her business is now operating, leveraging what she can do from where she stands today,…she had more capability and help at her disposal than she expected. “I now know that I want to "design" my life rather than just live it by "default"...and do what I believe is expected of me. I definitely feel a greater sense of enjoyment in my life now and I am excited for the future.”
“My direct family - at least 3, and also my wider family - in particular my parents and other friends”…have been impacted positively by the changed approach and direction she has found.
There were many key concepts we worked through together. In addition to “designing” clearly what she wanted from the core facets of her life, Lucy also flagged that there were “Lots of stories and anecdotes throughout the program which I could relate to. Working through the notion of "fear" and accepting that we can move forwards EVEN in the face of fear or discomfort (for example I HATE the thought of having to do a presentation, but I won't let it stop me starting this thing up).
Thinking deeply about how we "label" ourselves, where those labels came from, how we aren't defined by them. I was never seen as being "sporty" when I was in the UK, but now I definitely feel that new friends see me as one of the "sporty" ones. I've learnt that it's often our own limiting beliefs that prevent us doing something, we are our own worst enemy!”
As you know, the 12 weeks that I spent with you on your DreamBuilder programme were extremely fruitful for me! I wanted to tell you a little bit about the process from my perspective so that you can share my story with others.
When I first came to the DreamBuilder programme, I came with a lot of what I would call "baggage".....years of challenges in the family, the decision to leave a successful career to focus on the family, and I was at a crossroads in my life not knowing where to go. Working with you was like a breath of fresh air - the programme is so logical and I love the way that it naturally and organically takes you through a process to work out what you would really LOVE to do in your life. The programme helps you understand that you are only as limited as your own "limiting beliefs", and that when you step forwards into the unknown, confidently, things will tend to fall into place due to the power of the universe in which we live.
Even before the end of the DreamBuilder programme I had made the decision to start my own "paint-your-own-pottery" business here in Vaud, and my husband gave me the idea of being "mobile."
I've put some information below on what I offer and I would love you to share this with the fellow mums out there in case they would like to have a go!
Doodlepotz paint on pottery / peinture sur céramiques
I feel truly blessed to work with Lucy, and people just like her. You can find out more about her business at www.doodlepotz.ch.
Join me for our next Workshop
In September I will be holding only my second intimate workshop for the year to explore the importance of building your own life vision…plus sharing some tools to make a positive difference in your life.
You can find more information here. You’ll also find feedback from people that attended our last event – and the impact it had on them. You can also register directly here.
Meanwhile, if you feel I can help you in some way, feel free to touch base with me.
I am not a person to “blow my own trumpet” but I will leave the last words to Lucy. I appreciate her positive feedback and I will continue to work hard to ensure I earn such support from everyone I meet…
“Milena is a fantastic coach, totally professional, knowledgeable and I believe she really cares deeply about her clients and their journey. She has her own life experiences which help her to be a great coach and I would have no hesitation in recommending her to all my friends.”
To Your Greatness,
We don’t always know what our life’s purpose or journey is supposed to be or we may have so many dreams we are overwhelmed with them all. However, one thing is for sure: if we are feeling restless or discontent we are not living our dreams! Feelings of discontent and longings for something else, even when we don’t know for sure toward what we are being drawn, are actually calls to pursue our greater good. We discover true desire by first noticing discontent.
When you experience discontent or feel restless, and you’re not sure why, don’t shut it out just because you don’t know what it means. When you shut off your yearnings you become numb and paralyzed to create something more interesting. Bring those inner rumblings to the front of your mind for examination. These rumblings are nudging you toward a more meaningful existence and urging you not to settle for mediocrity. By opening yourself up to them for examination you are allowing your discontent to lead you toward your purpose.
We also need to be aware of messages from those around us and not let others criticize us into shutting down our dreams, or even our discontent. Restlessness is telling us there is more out there and we are not here to lead limited cramped lives. Allow this "voice" to be louder and ring truer than anyone else’s. We are not here to settle for less than our purpose, nor should we settle for what anyone else limits us to. Each and every one of us has infinite potential for creating whatever it is we want to create.
Dreams and desires pull at us, tug at us, speak to us, and will not leave us alone because we are not meant to live unfulfilled lives. Let these inner frictions rub until they create the spark that will ignite the fire of your own purpose. You will know when your desire is sincere when just talking about it gives you energy and inspires motivation in you, even when fruition is far off. Harness your positive energy to partake in the plan that is in store for you. In doing so, you will be honouring your discontent and letting it lead you to your greater good.
To Your Best Life!
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I recently read an interesting piece on a ten year study on "genius" completed by researchers at Harvard called the Zero Point study.
They defined the genius capacity as being demonstrated by certain individuals that bring forth great ideas, transformational thinking, movement, social change, innovative ideas that transform and transpose us to a whole new height of living.
The researchers began to define genius as the number of modalities with which one takes in information, synthesizes that information and makes use of it. You and I have many modalities with which we can take in information - sight, sound, touch, intuition, etc.
Have you ever felt nostalgic as you see a period of your life that is seemingly coming to a close?
Sometimes it is a move to a different country instigated by a new work assignment. Parents can very easily relate to this when looking at their children growing so fast - one moment we are keen to see them grow up, become more independent and easier to take care of, while in the next, we yearn to stay in the moment while they are really young and just being child-like. Sometimes, we feel nostalgia for the good old days in a relationship that has since evolved to a level which we no longer feel we belong to.
According to Mayo Clinic research, embracing forgiveness and relieving yourself of past pains plays a vital role in our Physical, Emotional and Spiritual health.
On the Physical level, letting go of the past boosts your immune system, lowers your blood pressure improving heart health, relieves acute and chronic pain, improves digestion and balances your hormones. Emotionally, forgiveness reduces stress, anxiety and hostility, enhances self-esteem, increases compassion and opens us to better relationships. On the Spiritual level, we feel re-connected with our closer and wider environment, our world expands and we are open to hear the innate guidance on how to proceed every day in alignment with our greater purpose.
These days we use navigation tools in so many ways that we can at times feel lost without them. I know I have learnt to rely on my satellite navigation in the car so much that the idea of having to search for an address and then using a book as I drive to a new destination seems cumbersome.
There is another thing to be said about this. The navigation system will offer more than one route to the desired destination. The initial information that we receive on the suggested time that each route would take to get us from A to B doesn't always hold true.
I love everything about Christmas — the presents, the great food, time with the family or friends that I don’t get to see or speak to regularly. I love decorating my Christmas tree and the house, wrapping the presents and listening to the festive music. But there is something else that I love above all — it is the opportunity to pause and take a deep breath, relax and allow ourselves to experience moments of silence and peace. An opportunity to sense the connection with countless souls around the world. It is a reminder that regardless of where we are, what we are doing or how we are living, we are all here at this time in history for a reason.
Today as I sit in deep gratitude for all there is and all there ever has been in my life, I am reminded of a very different time and experience in my life. Years ago, I was going through a challenging time, faced with a scary health condition and feeling like there was hardly anything good about my life. In my eyes, the world was a hostile place and life was about nothing but struggle, full of obstacles and injustice where only the chosen few can thrive, always and only at the expense of others like me.
As we go through life, we distinguish as clearly as black and white between the good and the bad - we learn to do this from a very young age as we are trained by our well-meaning environment to become an individual who fits in with the expectations of the system and those around us. So our beliefs about what is good and what is bad are deeply ingrained in us and form the basis of our habits, behaviours and choices we make later in life.
There is a book “Power Thoughts” by Robert Schuller. In it there is a chapter “Saying Yes to Your Dreams”. Here is what it’s about...
What one thing would you do if you could not fail? Write it down in capital letters. Even if it seems odd or silly to you and your mind starts arguing for limitations as to why it couldn’t happen, just write it down in capital letters. Let your imagination run wild. Then, take a good look at what you’ve written down in capital letters.